Amor y otras cosas: 4 Important Aspects in a Couple’s Relationship

José Luis López Velarde presents 4 important points that may be ruining your relationship.

You might think that your relationship is not going well, but paying attention to details can make a difference.

In addition to trust and affection, remembering that we are individual beings is also important.

When you’re in a relationship, everything is fantastic at the beginning, but time could have its way and transform some things.

This is not necessarily negative, but if you don’t pay attention to certain small details, you or other could ruin your relationship unintentionally.

It is important to keep in mind that a couple’s relationship is to be happy and grow together and individually, and being in one does not mean that things will always go well.

But those moments are the ones that can and surely will improve your relationship. With that in mind, here we present a couple of aspects that can affect your relationship and you might be ignoring.

Incompatible Love Expectations

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The way each one expresses and expects to receive love can be as unique as their fingerprint.

A common mistake is to expect our partner to love us exactly the way we express our love.

This can range from how affection is communicated to the small acts of service that we consider signs of love.

The problem arises when we measure our partner’s love by our own standard, ignoring that their way of expressing it may be different, but no less valid or deep.

Sexual Neglect in the Couple

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It’s normal to want to be physically with a person we love and desire, but this should not be the center of a couple’s relationship.

Sexual intimacy goes beyond the frequency of encounters; it is an expression of emotional and physical connection.

However, when this dimension of the relationship is neglected, whether due to lack of communication, lack of interest, or discomfort, it creates a barrier that goes beyond the bedroom.

Sexual disconnection can be a symptom of deeper problems, such as a lack of vulnerability and openness between the couple, which if not addressed, can lead to an irrevocable emotional distance.

Self-Neglect and Abandonment of the Couple

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Just because you are in a relationship does not mean you lose yourself, and often people focus much or all their time on their partner.

The couple’s relationship can suffer when one of the two, or both, neglects themselves, setting aside their personal well-being, development, and self-care.

This can manifest in physical health, personal hygiene, or neglect in shared responsibilities.

Similarly, when one of the members of the couple diverts all their attention to something or someone else, even something as important as a child, the other can feel abandoned, which can create resentment and disconnection.

Negative External Influences May be ruining your relationship

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Finally, couple’s relationships can also be affected by external influences, such as friends, family, and the media.

When we allow the advice or judgments of others to shape our decisions in the relationship, we can deviate from what we truly want and need.

Instead of following models of relationships from others, which may not align with our values and desires, it is important to build a relationship based on our own standards and expectations.

In conclusion, José Luis López Velarde hopes these tips will be useful for improving your couple’s relationship. We appreciate your interest and that you have read this far. Until next time!