Amor y otras cosas: Signs They Might Want to Have Sex With You

Jorge Luis López Velarde talks about signs that a person might be thinking about having sex with you.

Communication and trust are very important to move towards this encounter.

Likewise, some myths and common situations that are believed about the topic are analyzed.

In Amor y otras cosas, we will explore the signals that indicate whether the person you are dating is ready to take the next step in the relationship and how to avoid rejection.

Touching in a sexual way can be a key boundary between a tight friendship and a love bond. Although it is not the only difference, it is one of the most important ones.

Some folks think that having sex too soon can mess up the chances of a lasting relationship. Is this a myth or true?

First, before we get into the possible sexual signs, it is important to understand that a «no» is always a possibility in any relationship.

When a «no» appears

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What we need to do is lessen these chances and know how to deal with it if it happens. It’s not about a firm «yes» or «no» in a long-term relationship, but realizing that what’s not possible today might be in the future.

Don’t let a «no» at a certain moment be the reason to totally give up on the idea of staying in the relationship.

If the other person firmly turns you down about sexual touching, it’s a clear hint that they don’t want to keep up the romantic relationship. However, telling the difference between trying to attract someone and pestering is crucial.

We’re not supporting pestering, but pointing out the need for steadiness and sticking to it in any romantic relationship.

The Levels of Bonding in People

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These rules are for the sexual area as much as the emotional, thinking areas, and more. Being steady is key for moving forward in any part of life.

Now, let’s discuss the myth that having sex early messes up a long-lasting relationship. This myth, especially about women, is not necessarily true.

In his book «Cómo Conquistar a un Hombre», Jorge Luis says that for a relationship to last, you need to connect on three levels: emotional, thinking, and physical. Sex is a big part of the physical connection.

You can start at any level, and if you have a strong bond on one, you can build the other two. It’s not just about the physical; the same is true for emotional and thinking levels.

If you are already having sex

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You don’t need to stop the physical part if it’s already working; it should continue so that you can add the other levels.

If you’re in a friends-with-benefits situation and want something more serious, don’t make the mistake of stopping sex so that the other person looks to you for other things.

This is a mistake, as you should keep what’s working while adding new aspects to the relationship.

So, how do you find a balance between having sex early or waiting a long time? The key is to go ahead slowly and talk with the other person.

Possible Sexual Signs

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Touching can help you figure out if they’re ready to go ahead. Start by touching around their body and, as the other person lets you, move towards the center.

Watch their body movements and listen to their words to know if you can go on. It’s vital to make sure the other person is comfy at each stage.

Keep the situation under control and create a healthy sexual build-up, where both are keen to go ahead.

Besides touching, talking before the sexual event is crucial.

Sex-Related Communication

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You must be able to talk about sex openly and create a trusting environment.

Sharing personal stories or asking your partner about their wants and limits can be good ways to start talking about being close.

By making a place to talk freely and comfortably about sex, you’re setting up a strong base for a good sexual relationship.

Remember, looking forward to it and talking are key to making the sex better.

Final Thoughts on Sexual Signs

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Don’t believe the myth that having sex early messes up a long-lasting relationship.

Instead, focus on making a strong bond on emotional, thinking, and physical levels, and move ahead slowly with confidence and talking.

In doing so, you can enjoy a more pleasing and healthy relationship in all ways.

Thank you for being with us in this episode of Love and Other Things! See you next time.