Amor y otras cosas: Why Can’t We Find a Partner?

José Luis López Velarde answers why people sometimes can’t find a partner.

It’s about looking where you least expect it.

Don’t be afraid to think that you deserve to be loved, but you should clearly know what you would like.

In our society, we are taught to search for our «other half,» and when time passes and we remain alone, frustration is a common response.

Now «Amor y otras cosas» and José Luis López Velarde, an expert in psychology and sexuality, addresses this concern shared by many.

Authenticity as the foundation of love. The fundamental premise is that you do not need to change to be deserving of love.

Real change is not about consuming more content or following an endless list of «must-dos,» but about recognizing and accepting that, as you are, you are already worthy of love.

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Any contrary message can undermine your self-esteem, suggesting that only if you meet certain conditions will you be worthy of love.

The numbers strategy in the search for a relationship. José Luis proposes a practical perspective: finding a partner is largely a matter of numbers.

If you have gone out with very few people in the last year, it’s time to increase those numbers. The problem is not who you are, but how many people you have met.

Increasing your interactions will give you a greater opportunity to find someone with whom you truly click.

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The wishlist: clarity in your preferences. Creating an exhaustive list of the characteristics you desire in a partner is a powerful exercise.

But it’s not about creating an impossible shopping list; it’s more about understanding what is truly important to you.

This list should include not only physical attributes but also behavioral qualities and ways of being treated in different emotional situations.

The exercise culminates in identifying the non-negotiable attributes and those that, although ideal, can be flexible or developed over time.

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Tolerance of frustration and openness to new experiences. Finding a partner often requires patience and the ability to handle disappointments.

Not all dates or interactions will be perfect, but each one is an opportunity to learn and grow.

Tolerance of frustration means not closing yourself off to possibilities just because they don’t perfectly match your initial expectations.

Love is a journey, not a destination. Our podcast invites you to consider that the search for a partner is a journey of self-discovery and growth.

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With each new encounter, you’re learning more about yourself and getting closer to what you really want and need in a relationship.

For more tips and strategies on how to increase your chances of finding a partner, and how to manage expectations and the reality of modern dating, listen to the full episode of «Amor y otras cosas».

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We hope this information helps you in this world of relationships. See you next time!